I cannot begin to imagine the incredible stresses on a person who is considering divorce.
I cannot begin to imagine how horrible it would be to receive divorce papers in the mail when you are thinking that things are going to work out.
I don’t understand how I can be friends with both people…after.
I apologize for the lack of posts lately, but a couple of friends of mine are pretty likely going to be getting divorced here in the near future, and, as I tend to be an empathetic person, much of my thoughts and concerns have been with them, and not really in the realms of personal finance.
They are young, and they’ve only been married a few years. They don’t have any kids, so I suppose that’s good in the long run.
I just thought that out of all of my friends, this would be the couple that would last.
If they split, you may be put into a position to “pick”. Hopefully, since they will not necessarily have to deal with the financial issues of children, they may part as friends. Good for them, Good for you.
Advice - don’t play into their sorrows and anger right now. Listen, no judgments, offer hugs and sincere compassion for both. They may work it out, the heart is a strange thing. But if you all are friends, this may bring them back. Friendship is the most powerful part of a marriage.
Remember, even though you are all close, those 2 may have things that are too much for both of them to deal with. Whether because of age or lack of experiences. Either way, confusion is going to run crazy. Try and be the stable force - both of them will need it.
Thank you for the advice. I am trying to be stable and not offer judgment, it’s just hard to watch them hurting.